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open invite

I celebrated my 21st in January There’s a bar near my university that has “wine Wednesday“ which is $5 for a really heinous bottle of wine. Most ppl go regularly already bc there’s pool, cheap drinks, and it’s within walking distance of campus. Vibes are less than great but that’s beside the point lol. My 21st fell on a Wednesday, and all I knew is that I did not want to get my expectations up. That would only lead to birthday blues. So I figured I would just invite my inner circle to come celebrate with me at wine Wednesday. Which turned into me inviting anyone i thought was cool/ wanted to be friends w. My close friends also brought their respective friend groups. I got dressed up cute, got to the bar at 10, and throughout the night got to say hi to ppl as they came and went. it took all the pressure off of me to entertain or make sure ppl were getting along. bc everyone had their own peeps to talk to and different activities to entertain themselves w. The bartender gave me free shots and the DJ let me play whatever I wanted. It was a great time and way more ppl than I thought came through. i corralled my close ppl for a group pic and after that everyone had their own fun time Allowing me to Irish exit to partake in some more illicit stuff and I ended my night drunk beyond belief tagging in a train yard w one of my friends I will be celebrating in this style going forward, it was great, and now there are at least a dozen train cars that say “happy 21st birthday Sophia” w my or my friends tag :D ALSO IF NO ONE YAKS ON UR 21st U DIDNT DO IT RIGHT

@phianeversleeps

Jun 7, 2024

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21st birthday on a call w a friend

maybe it’s the joy on my face or maybe it’s the fact that i know exactly what happened for this picture to occur, but, man, i love it. nothing like being 21, drunk, and sweaty staring at all of your friends from your apartment’s alley and getting a half-eaten slice of homemade cake shoved in your hands. i had called my friend who left the party bc he got too high and was scared of all the people hahaha. he never did end up coming back. this is still a night i’m very grateful for and i’m happy to have this moment captured. thank you, stringbean501

@radeline

Apr 9, 2024

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TIED BETWEEN 14,15,AND 19

14–Held my party in a private underground bar with speakeasy vibes, because it was underneath the opera house where I did community theater and it was where we’d had our cast parties. My mom knew the guy who owns basically the whole block and he was surprisingly okay with letting us use it for a teenager’s birthday lol. My “Happy Birthday” banner still hangs from the ceiling, last I checked! 15–two of my friends surprised me at my bedroom window at midnight, and in the afternoon we drove out to a camping spot along the river. There, we lit a campfire and wrote stuff on slips of paper that we wanted to burn to get it out of our lives. Before that, we ate the cake that my friend had made me, but in our infinite wisdom we forgot forks or plates, so we ate it with our hands like cavemen lmao 19–My first summer living away from home, so I was nervous that I wouldn’t have anyone to hang out with since my friends had moved back home after our freshman year, leaving me alone in our college town. I enjoyed my speech and debate teammates but I didn’t feel that close to them outside of the activity. That changed after they invited me to the farmer’s market with them and then back to the house they were renting. They made me a banh mi inspired pizza (flatbread with the spicy mayo as the “pizza sauce” and the tofu and pickled veggies as toppings) that is still unrivaled in my culinary experiences. We played several board games and had a lot of fun—I felt really loved by these people who didn’t really have to do this for me! One of them had graduated that spring and passed the team presidency onto me, and I just adored her. I felt so happy to be hanging out with her on my birthday. We dated a couple years later after she and her high school sweetheart split, but I ended up getting my heart broken. That makes this memory a little bittersweet, looking back on a now ruined friendship. But it is memorable anyway so I had to put it even though it isn’t 100% happy lol

@random-gay-nerd

May 27, 2025

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Talk shit about systems… not people

sometimes you gotta talk shit to process but often I think we talk too much shit…. At the end of the day we’re all human beings who are trying the best with what they’ve got. if someone is annoying you/acting mean/unkind it’s most likely all connected to a larger system that did not set them up for success. Instead of shit talking the rude waiter, celebrity drama, your friends annoying partner— let’s break down systems that are holding us all back!!!! or the systems that are probably holding that person back! Let’s give grace to humans and question the larger systems that generate more trauma and disconnect! that’s how we generate more love and compassion and move things forward some of my favorite systems to talk about are: •industrialized food and food accessibility •consumerism/overconsumption (and the connection to social media & celebrity culture) •hustle culture •politics/2 party system •cars/walkable cities/big oil •big dairy •Christianity plz comment ur fav system to break down / talk about with ur friends i love this stuff….

@ayanah

Apr 28, 2024

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Believing you *really* can do ANYTHING you want

what’s it gonna hurt!! you are power, you are a piece of the sun, you are as great as you believe you are! Fake that ego until it’s real. your inner voice is an insanely loving mother that only sees the good. it may feel silly at first… but you are as capable as anyone, so let yourself believe that you are! isn't that the first step in getting anything you want?

@ayanah

Mar 6, 2024

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Listen / talk to people you disagree with

Thats How we unite and learn and grow!! I swear people are usually kinder than we think they are. it’s so beautiful to find middle ground

@ayanah

Dec 20, 2024