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It’s too common to be comfortable in all situations these days. Nothing goes harder than a good awkward interaction between 2 people who don’t want anything to do with anyone.
Apr 23, 2024
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I used to have severe social anxiety to the point where I couldn’t look people in the eye. That was 20 years ago now (god, I’m getting old) and now many people mistake me for an extrovert. What has helped me most is practice. Talk to people, have the awkward moments, and discover you survive! It is vulnerable to open ourselves to others, but it’s also incredibly courageous. It builds your confidence and helps you to silence those anxious inner voices that tell you that every social faux pas is certain death.
Here are some lessons that I’ve learned.
- Test out your fears. Are they real or are people more generous/supportive than you expect? A lot of times, we’re being hard on ourselves because we’re afraid others will be hard on us. Just as often, people are generous, kind, and understanding. Let them surprise you!
- You feel more nervous/awkward than others will experience you. Or maybe they feel the same about themselves! Besides, it’s okay to be nervous. It just means you care and you’re invested in the interaction.
- If you feel stuck, ask people questions. Keep a couple of open-ended questions in your back pocket to get people talking. We love talking about ourselves and it opens doors for dialogue and connection.
- Slow down and leave space. Don’t feel pressure to fill every pause with a sound. Fill those pauses with your presence. Silence gives you time to think and digest what’s already been said.
- Conversation and connection are about discovery. Approach them with curiosity and see what’s possible! This isn’t about knowing your lines like a stage play. It’s improv, baby! Show up and see what unfolds.
- Finally, be gentle with yourself. No one is perfect. We all stutter and stumble, say dumb stuff, and even put people off! Keep trying to connect and you will find your people.
Good luck and much love to you! 💕
Apr 27, 2025
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Being comfortable is nice when it’s a reward but as a state of being it’s boring and makes you boring and a boring life is a waste of whatever this is supposed to be. Go be uncomfortable (me talking to me)
Sep 20, 2024
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there is certain type of extrovert that seems to believe that if you are introverted or shy you haven't reached your full potential, like you're only a half-baked pie, waiting for someone to come "pull you out of your shell" (-_-)...
i am not a flower waiting to bloom! i am not an unfinished garment! THIS IS THE DEAL! take it or leave it, don't try to shape things you don't understand into something you do.
no one owes you their bared soul.
Mar 3, 2025
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