Honestly, for me, what helped was finally liking the way I perceive myself. When I feel complete, it's easier ignoring other people's perception, and actually start perceiving the world. When you feel confident about yourself it stops being about you, your brain is not focused on your looks anymore. Going out in public finally morphs to just seeing the world and admiring its beauty. Instead of the brain going āme ugly, people hate meā it goes more like āme fine, world niceā. Find what makes you feel complete.
Apr 23, 2024
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To truly accept ourselves we have to stop thinking about what others think of us. Period. It doesnāt matter that your crush didnāt like you back. That youāre not your bossās favorite employee. That you arenāt your best friendās best friend. (Although if this is happening to you, find someone who appreciates you equally). What matters is how YOU see yourself. You become what you believe.
May 20, 2025
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Iāve been in the same boat. Since I was 13 I became really self conscious of my appearance, mainly due to other peopleās comments, and then that was exacerbated from 16-18 during college because people got meaner for some reason. I felt terrible, and the lockdowns unexpectedly saved me as it gave me a break from all those people.
It made me realise I should only stick with people who like me for who I am, not how I look. Then ignore all those comments and ignore those people, make them feel awkward for saying those things if they do. Even if people arenāt saying comments, just think less of what others think of you.
You are what you are, donāt try to change your appearance just to please people who might not care much about you in the first place. Donāt let your appearance bring you down, ignore those annoying flaws and be more confident to outshine any imperfections you think you might have. Donāt be afraid to do things you enjoy and spend time with new people.
Ofc others may have different advice as my problems are either impossible to change or very difficult to, so Iāve learned to be content with how my body is, and just play with the hand Iāve been dealt (which unfortunately means Iām not perfect at this and for instance still wear more clothes than others during the summer). But Iām generally very happy now with lots of good friends who like me for who I am.
Jan 25, 2025
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I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasnāt realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so itās easy to dwell on imperfections. But thatās not how people experience you. Itās not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. Youād think thereās something wrong with them! Who focuses on a personās looks that much! Get a life you misery!
Thatās how we treat ourselves. Thereās an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. Itās so boring. Your āflawsāāas society has taught you to think about themāare not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness.
One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But thatās what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because sheās unapologetic about them.
Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. Itās how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other peopleā not how you look.
Mar 29, 2025
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Apr 29, 2024
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This song makes me want to rediscover the world, and I think being high in the sky can make it sound magical.
Apr 27, 2024
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https://www.loveandlemons.com/butternut-squash-risotto/
Jan 23, 2024