asking this when meeting someone new, fun discovery process for both parties!
instead of “so what do you do for work?” or for the collegiates: “what’s your major?” this question serves the choose-your-own-adventure purpose because not everyone is afforded/prefers a stable job or education. it also allows you to get to know someone better, maybe they’re going to tell you about the 200 plants they take care of, or the profound though they’ve been stuck on. or, maybe they will think you’re weird and just tell you what they do for work, which is fine too, because it also answers the question. plus, people get excited when you ask them this. it’s unconventional in those early stages, cool points awarded brethren.
May 17, 2024
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I love to ask what people are currently “in to” - meaning current inspirations, fixations, interests, etc.
1. It’s subtle but revealing- I now know what you are interested in and get a hint at how you view life (ex. some interests can be perceived as narcissistic/surface level vs. thoughtful/curious) *Granted, not eveyone will have a good answer (or may not even be able to answer) and that will tell you all you need to know!!
2. Naturally we love to talk about ourselves and our passions so it will certainly keep the conversation going. Extra points for asking questions about what they say (maybe you’re interested, maybe you’re not- but at least it’s not awkward anymore)
May 22, 2025
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asking questions encourages connection between people (even if it’s short)!! like asking a barista what they like to drink, or asking the marine educator by the tide pools about the fish in there, or asking someone in a wait line what they do for work. obviously respect people’s time and space, but going out of my way to ask questions has lead to positive outcomes!
Not only do you connect with people, but you might learn something or meet someone cool :)
Jun 12, 2025
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Asking for recommendations when you're stumped is a fun thing to do. I think, why not ask them what's a good conversation starter, it's refreshing, it's not about their job etc etc.
Jul 20, 2024
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- my lore is interesting
- people enjoy being around me
- my anecdotes are unique
- i don’t scare people
- my best is actually good
- i can perform hard tasks
- my confidence isn’t a facade
- i am a bundle of joy
May 6, 2024
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Builds character, confidence, and discipline. The only person in charge of your mess is you! When you get home you can turn the performance off! Naked time anytime!
Apr 17, 2025