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i am starting to realise how detrimental & unfair it is to not only myself but also the people around me because i then hold them to unreachable standards.
we are learning!! not there yet but slowly and surely
Jul 2, 2024
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Perfectionism is rooted in an irrational desire to exert control in order to achieve a specific outcome. It often also comes from a critical self that has internalized the message that one has to be perfect to be worth loving rather than being able to trust that people who love you will love you unconditionally despite or even because of your imperfectionsâŠ
Jun 18, 2024
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letting ppl down is inevitable. i donât strive for it but itâs brought me peace knowing that to be a human is to disappoint here and there.
Sep 3, 2024
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I have really delayed so much of my healing by clinging to certain people or ideas, forgetting that life doesnât often turn out the way that you imagine. (It can be better than you imagine if you simply let it happen!!) I have been living my life in devotion to âwhat-ifsâ and half baked desires instead of just enjoying who I am, what I have and whatâs in front of me. No more of that!!! What good can come out of forcing it? Iâm trying to go with the flow and give myself permission to change and accept the change around me and be happy.
Oct 24, 2024
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I think 10 year old addy wouldâve passed out if sheâd known that she would come to own this in 13 yearsâŠyou can take the girl out of bikini bottom but you canât take bikini bottom out of the girl
Apr 23, 2025
i know it sounds so clichĂ© but i work for a climate organisation & i just came home from a work event so iâm feeling very inspired/energised/refreshedâŠplease find your community because it is tiring, draining, & almost impossible to drive social change alone. you donât have to do it alone.
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Jun 29, 2024
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i really also think about how much boys are taught ways to perform masculinity & how it is legitimised through tangible things like building a career etc but with women i find that from a young age our identity, behaviours, & thoughts are always spoken about in relation to other people/things â gender roles within the family, how weâre perceived by men, our friendships with other women, our relationships with material things etc etc â and this shows up in the labels that women are often given too! so and so is someoneâs daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother etc etc. i envy the freedom of boyhood so much, the freedom to just be (this is not to discount the toxicity of traditional masculinity, i just think that boys are still afforded more âplayâ and therefore have more opportunities to develop their sense of self).
maybe i am also biased because of how iâve grown up & whatnot but i never really understood what it meant to quote unquote be a woman or perform femininity. i only saw this modelled within my nurturing friendships with women as iâve gotten older but when i was younger, in church it was always âok well donât do this or that because x y z will happen to men if you doâ or within my extended family it was often âare you seeing anyone? when are you having kidsâ. damn what happened to asking about how iâm doing or what my dreams are!!!
long rant sorry !! but thatâs my long winded way of saying âi feel youâ haha
Jun 28, 2024