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I love meeting new people with my entire being. I talk to everyone and have so many wonderful connections because of it. Itās an art, one must know how to enter a conversation and when to exit it. Never overstaying your welcome or coming on too strong. I think everyone in NY should be friends and I wish every weekend the entirety of prospect park was a picnic that anyone could join.Ā
Aug 21, 2024
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the single greatest thing about new york city is the random conversations about random shit with random people, and how nice so many people seem to be at their core. having lived there and a few other places i believe it to be pretty unique to New York. its special man
Apr 26, 2024
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TLDR: there are friends everywhere for those with eyes to see
I think one consequence of urbanism is a sense of alienation or otherness from oneās neighbors, and especially from strangers. the average person you pass on the street is assumed to have little in common with you with which to establish a mutual connection. maybe this is a consequence of me living in the south, but iāve been finding that most people are happy to start a light conversation in public.
ive been making a practice of being in public spaces with a posture of openness to interaction. no earbuds in, making light convo with people like service workers that goes beyond the transaction, striking up convos with people who are sharing a space iām in, etc. most recently I stopped on a park bench at a skatepark during a bike ride and struck up a convo with a skater who beefed a trick and was describing in great detail how it happened and his history with skating. shout out cole I hope your collar bone isnāt broken.
these arenāt the same as a deep, intentional community that one has with close friends/peers (that comes from seeking out, plugging in, and showing up consistently), but seeing everyone around you as a possibility for human connection until proven otherwise makes one feel less lonely. thereās an intentionality in having a posture of openness to connection that can become a self fulfilling prophecy. itās easy nowadays to feel like we live in social archipelagos, with our own clusters of friends and loved ones with little connecting each group to each other and little connection to others everywhere around us. but your average person is just as interesting and worth getting to know as anyone else. be curious, be cordial, and start integrating casual momentary connections into your life to tide you over between the deeper relationships in your life you might not have access to all the time
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Iāve met some of my best friends by just saying hi at a party or complementing their outfit. Lately Iāve stopped meeting new people when Iām out and I really want to change this. Iām making it a goal to say hi to 1 new person every time Iām out.
Jan 26, 2025
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Iāve been eating here since I was a baby. The smell of spice welcomes you and itās frustrating that you canāt eat everything there all at once. Please go and get a spinach feta pie (heated up) and thank you later :)
Aug 21, 2024
Iām a bit of a girly pop but whenever I go into a bodega I tap into a divine Italian masculinity that delights and frightens me. I say things like āhey bossā and ālemme get that with pepperjackā. I donāt even know what pepperjack is but it sounds dangerous. Like asking for a sandwich with a switchblade in it.
Aug 21, 2024
Thereās something about an 8 pixel image of a tamarind monkey that makes my heart sing the most beautiful melody known the man(imal). I have an entire folder of these pics on my phone, hundreds of grainy monkeys and apes, and I look at them whenever Iām feeling down. They are my coffee, my muse, my goodnight kiss, and my sacred text. Also monkeys are likeā¦ funny lol
Aug 21, 2024