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I’m not American soo I’ve never been to one but the idea of a wedding rehearsal is deeply unsettling to me.
Saw a photo from one on insta, googled it and WHAT people practice the ceremony and the vows with all the guests?!… pls tell me Im missing something…
A wedding ceremony should be reverent and mysterious… The idea of going through the motions, breaking it down to the sum of its parts, acting out a ritual! and all driven by this micromanaging operational instinct feels so wrong…. like you’re performing a curse…. That’s some doppelgänger, mirror-image, uncanny devilish shit
Oct 18, 2024
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and fumbled attempting to chase others. I regret sometimes that I missed out on so many normal common experiences and think that maybe if I had engaged in them I could be normal but then I wouldn’t be the person I am.
I will say and this is controversial and you can stone me in the public square for saying it if you want… I recognize and respect their importance in people’s cultures and that they mean something to others but I don’t care about weddings FOR ME personally.
I didn’t grow up dreaming of my perfect wedding day and the idea of hosting an event dedicated solely to myself and my betrothed where we’re the center of attention makes me feel mortified. I don’t need to declare my love in front of everyone.
Also the concept that your wedding is the best day of your life instead of every day that you get to be with your spouse and the memories you make together thereafter is depressing to me. But I’m pragmatic and not one to romanticize things…
Apr 17, 2024
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If you're gonna get married, you gotta have skin in the game. None of this "the couple shared their vows privately before the ceremony" BS. it's supposed to be scary! it's supposed to be vulnerable! it's supposed to bring all the people you invited into your relationship, if only for a moment! and even though i've never gotten married, i've got to imagine that you would feel incredibly close to your partner after both baring your hearts and souls before a room full of people. what a thing to do together!
plus, as a wedding attendee, the reception is always way more fun when everyone's got serotonin coursing through their brains from watching you say really beautiful stuff. a far more important aspect of a good wedding than the hors d'oeurves.
Jan 26, 2024
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One of my friends is getting married in 12 days and I cannot wait for this to be over. I‘m happy for them ofc but I’m doing a lot of work supporting her and helping with events with our whole friend group (we are not in the wedding party).
I’m tired and I‘m going through my own shit. I would just like my friends back. I don’t want to talk about venue decor and bachelorette stuff anymore. It has been over a year of this.
May 26, 2025
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i sense the most reliable path to true contentment and fulfilment in this life may be found by focusing not on ‘what will make me happy’ but on ‘how can I be useful to those I love and my community’.... the two are by no means mutually exclusive and i believe the first can only ever be found through the second.
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