i've had this same problem and the only solution i've found (granted there's not a crazy amount of options i've seen where i live) is looking at plato's closet or the thrift for stuff. old j.crew corduroys were all high waisted, bunch of older rustler/wrangler denim, etc. as far as new options go i'm in the same boat as you because i'm tired of gambling on whatever length they are 😭
i have never found a pair of shorts i like, that fit me well, and are comfortable, so i’ve resorted to thrifting jeans i wear for. a few days to make sure i like them and then cutting them into The Perfect Shorts (i like old wranglers best)
Thrifted a pair of Wrangler denim that fit just right for me. Baggy but not too much. I haven’t been able to find a pair quite like it, I have some Levi’s 569s I really like but they’re a bit too loose.
i got this one pair of wranglers at a thrift store a while back and i wear them almost everyday. i wear jeans everyday so i need to trust my jeans not to rip or anything stupid like that. my rule is that if i can’t wear my jeans to a ranch and be comfortable the entire time, then they’re not worth it
as far as material things go...
- falling back in love with reading for pleasure and not for academic requirement
- flat-wound guitar strings because they last forever and sound fantastic even when they're dead
- old goofy mugs; it's like a more buttoned-up equivalent to finding that out of pocket t-shirt at the thrift and i love how much character they add
i know it's basic but keeping a daily journal has been one of the most grounding things in my life. you don't need to shell out $$$ on a travelers' notebook and a snazzy pen, but just repeating the daily act of physically writing your thoughts down is a wonderful thing. i keep a daily recollection/diary sort of thing along with a sort of freeform commonplace book where i jot down thoughts or lyric ideas or cool words i read and had to look up definitions of. it's nerd shit but the sort of positive affirming nerd shit that everyone needs at least a little bit of. also the amount of stuff you forget over the course of a week/month/year is astounding -- doing this is fun in part because you can read through your past entries (good and bad) again with fresh eyes.
i've been going to concerts religiously for the past decade and never before have i felt more immediate crowd energy than when this ******** brat cube appeared out of nowhere. absolutely incredible. maybe night 1 of oasis at wembley will top this but this was truly special