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personally I am really shit with birthdays and i forget to wish people them, so for my new years resolution last year I said I would buy a present for each of my friends birthdays to make up for it.
It was a constant looming anxiety throughout the year but I feel very happy by the end that I completed it. I won’t be doing it next year, but maybe I will in 3 or so years’ time!!
Dec 30, 2024
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Since your birthday is really your own individual new year
Mar 22, 2024
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for the last three years (at least) I've noticed every birthday goes the same way- midnight starts off on a good note because I'm surrounded with my friends and there's cake and music and dancing, but when i wake up the next morning there's just this... void. not a sadness in particular, but a feeling of emptiness. i get this strange feeling of having to do something epic or cram my day with activities, cause that's what is expected? cause people are constantly asking 'ooh what plans do you have for your birthday', but what if i just want to stay in and meet some friends and have a nice time? which is exactly what i did this time with a game night, but the void the next morning persisted. i don't think it's because of me thinking of what i've achieved in the last year and how i could have done more. in hindsight, you could have always done more but it was a big year for me- i moved away from home to another continent, started my masters degree and set up my life here. i think it stems from a place of seeing others my age and making comparisons, which is not something i like doing because i have always believed everybody's track is so different and there is no way to make a fair comparison yet i still do so. and so i start thinking to myself, "oh am i too skinny to look like I'm almost in my mid 20s", or "his t-shirt is much cooler than mine", or some other superficial thing that is purely relies on physical appearances. maybe i just miss having someone i can have deep chats with without feeling like I'm boring them or pressurising them to stay and listen, maybe i should just reach out to some friends from back home, which I've always found tough to do but better late than never
Apr 27, 2025
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The concept of birthdays is so human and so touching.
Gathering together to celebrate the fact that someone you know and love completed yet another year on this earth.
The concept of gift giving confused me when it came to birthdays but then I realized living can be made really difficult by a number of different things, and to grow and age is to face unavoidable challenges, so it only makes sense we reward people for the time they’ve endured here.
What a lovely concept that we give presents to people and in return they gift us their presence for yet another day!!
the whole thing has really made me rethink birthday gifts. I try and think of major themes from the year they just completed — music, art, memories, something that played an integral part in helping them grow. it’s also a pretty helpful exercise to assess how much you know about what your friends are perceiving and experiencing day to day.
Mar 29, 2024
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get da NTS app or whatever radio station u fuck with and just put that on in the morning. ya your brain might want stimulation before u can get out of bed but it doesn’t need instagram reels level shit. Just some fresh music is sometimes all u need
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separate your to do list into what does and doesn’t require a screen, and do those lists separately
means you aren’t constantly bouncing between a screen and the material world. Bonus points if your screenless list is completed without any music or podcasts or anything at all. You’re hiding your true power level by blocking all your thinking with consumption!!
posting a neoluddite rec on pifyi is basically reaction farming I’ve realised but I’m NOT that cynical I promise
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