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reconnecting with old friends

if theres someone you still think about and haven’t talked to in forever it is never too late to reach out to them imo! i have done this a bunch and the worst that happens is we reminisce about fun times before the conversation fizzles out, and that is still a sweet experience!! i just started talking to my old best friend again after a few years and just falling back into having everyday normal conversations w her as if we never stopped talking has lifted my mood so much. dm ur childhood friends right now i’m serious

@princess

May 3, 2024

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Keeping contact with old friends

I moved countries when I was younger and one of the things I've felt super guilty about recently is not being as close to my childhood friends as I used to be, so I have been making the concious effort to reach out again. Not letting go of friendships that you really value is super important I think.

@cleos_corner

Jan 30, 2025

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try yummy friendship snacks

This piece really spoke to me, and as recently as 2 weeks ago. My bestie (other friends) and I are just in very different phases of life. She had been busy raising a family and I had far more time on my hands. I had understood, of cos. But still I resented that I had 'lost' a cherished long time friend, I knew in my head, that it's entirely legit that she is busy. And she had felt she had nothing to contribute to our friendship since her stories are all about babies and kids. But after looking around for substitutes and other activities - actually found no one/anything that has any semblance of what we had. So I decided to just call her and just made that reconnection again. I had accepted that 10 mins of her time daily far outweighs 10 hours of someone I don't connect with or have no fond history with. This doesn't just apply to friendships I realise. Because building and maintaining relationships takes actual work. I mean you both have to want to. And you have to have tradeoffs. You can't be rigid, and you can't get all your needs met... But what I learned, is this agreement to still call and leave messages, text back and forth. We had to try different modes and different ways. Previously I also got really upset when I finally got hold of the person, and start off with angry accusations. This too didn't work, because he would get pissed because I was pissed. We still don't have it pat-down (friends/relationships) but my changed perspective did help, especially for me. https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/friendship-maintaining-healthy-relationships-text-calls-memes-5e66e221?st=2jl247gjqb814wr&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink&utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

@sachikom

Apr 10, 2024

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Fresh whipped cream with no sugar

It just balances out the sweetness in a creamy, airy way.

@yena_yh

Nov 30, 2024

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Trying hard and still being average

Trying hard is sometimes being looked down upon, it's not "cool". You know what, who cares. I get comments so often, like "your intense, you're such a try hard or why do you actually ...". I used to see it as weird/mean comments, until later when I realised some people just hate to see others actually enjoying themeselves. Another thing, the fact that I'm doing my best doesn't mean that I excell and tbh I used to find that a bit depressing. But recently I've learned to embrace the fact that it's actually quite nice to just do things, whatever the result. Def a change in mindset on things, but it has been a really nice change in mindset so far.

@yena_yh

Nov 22, 2024

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BY yourself a present

Hi, This is my first rec, so I was thinking on what I should do. But then I thought about how I bought myself a small present not too long ago and that I recommend others to do the same every ones in a while. Sometimes things seem not so important or you feel like you come across as a spoiled kid in the grand scheem of things, but even the tiniest things can still be tough. So if you ever feel like you just finished something that has been quite tough on you, by yourself something small. At the end of the day you were the one that put in the effort. After one year of doing the work of two people due to someone on the team having burn out, I spontaniously bought myself a teddy bear. It can also work as motivation for the last stretch. Only disclaimer, only buy yourselve things you actually like, use and/or need. A small gesture comes a long way.

@yena_yh

Nov 18, 2024