It’s a strategy, and it starts with wanting to learn how to say no. The second step is to ask yourself a few questions, like: What am I sacrificing by saying yes? Am I saying yes out of guilt or obligation? What would happen if I said no?
You sit with those questions for a bit, and eventually, you’ll unconsciously start using them as an automatic first response. To build that habit, you really need to reflect on yourself whenever you’re asked to hang out or do something.
But you can’t question your answer afterward, because that will definitely lead you to think, “Okay, I’m just gonna go.” Your first thought is important here—listen to yourself.
This is what I can say would work for someone, if I had to summarize my therapy visits, lol.
For me, to protect my peace, what worked was going to therapy. I learned things I never thought I could. At the beginning, it’s hard, but you’ll see how you can’t back down once you tell yourself that this is the only way.
Jan 29, 2025
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Save ”yes” for what you excites you, interests you, or is at the very least within your capacity. Not every “yes” needs to be enthusiastic but it should be authentic.
Some people have no trouble telling others “no” but it’s taken me a lot of practice. I’ve had to realize that my friends and family love me and value our relationship beyond any single request. Love isn’t transactional like this — or it shouldn’t be, at least.
Anyone you can’t say ”no” to is a walking red flag.
Nov 29, 2024
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if you grew up being a people pleaser like me, it can be so damn hard to set boundaries. but it was so great when I finally realized I simply didn’t have to say yes to everything/everyone.
it was wild. blew my mind. I highly recommend.
Aug 8, 2024
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It turns out that you can say "no" to things that aren't working out! Enough of letting my ego take me places at knife-point.
May 9, 2025
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I recently was discharged from therapy and the best thing is that i felt it coming. I am feeling such a great peace and so different is like my brain shifted in a good way. I can’t believe it yet but i know i deserved it!!!
May 27, 2025
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I just started the process of creating my own brand in order to get serious with my carreer. I currently am pursuing a Advertising degree, and broooooooooooooooooooootheeer it sucks ass.
I feel sooo desmotivated, but I went to my therapist and DANG SHE DO MAKE GOOD USE OF MY MONEY, she told me that I could target a certain group to provide them with services. honestly I LOVE IT.
it got me excited enough to see what am lacking, and to see what am not. While am a creative type of soul, I do struggle a lot at the moment as I been working to survive and not working to grow my carreer. this si honestly awful, but so true. If you are not born in a golden spoon type of situation, you will have to push harder. Saying that, i want you to know that you can do this, and everything is possible.
Id on't have resources, period. however I'm pushing with what I can and what I have, i don't feel like a fool when am doing creative stuff but I do feel like a fool when am doing customer service dang I hate ppl honestly and a kind specifically but that's too controversial.
Anywas, I wanted to share how am literally starting a business lol, and so do you. Is ALL about the LITTLE things, belive me.
OF COURSE, i will appreciate all the support and clients you guys can provide me with jijiji but that will be for another post.
THANK YOU FOR READING < 3
Feb 12, 2025
my bestie got a puppy! is a lady and her name is sol del mar 😭 it fits her so well.
she was abandoned and thankfully she was rescued and now we get to love her.
Jan 26, 2025