Love can mean so many things to so many people, and itâs said with so many different intentions behind it. It helps to start by understanding your own definition and what you mean to convey.
For me, itâs not something I reserve for only romantic partners or family, but I do keep it to a smaller group of people. I need to feel safe and vulnerable in order to say it to someone, so it often comes with a level of trust thatâs been built in that relationship.
Since the pandemic began, I have tried to say it more and more often to those I feel such strong affection and care toward. The past several years have reminded me of how unpredictable and impermanent life can be, so there is no point in waiting.
I probably tell my partner I love them 15x a day because I do and I want them to know it. And I try to text my friends that I love them weekly (more or less) as they cross my mind. Sometimes itâs just a text that says, âHey, I love you.â
You donât need to use the word love frivolously if you donât feel it but, if you do, donât hold back either. â¤ď¸
Mar 9, 2025
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I tell my wife I love her like 5 times a day. It feels so good to say! And every time my friends say they love me, I feel so honored, Iâm like âdamn⌠me???â You can really make someoneâs day when you say it. Showing love often gets spun in the opposite way, but letâs be real for a second â HIDING the love is some wussy shit. And lifeâs too short for that!
Jan 10, 2023
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this world is too cold and life is too short to not make sure that the people around you know you love them, that they matter to you. stop this mindset of needing to be nonchalant!!!! if someone leaves you after you tell them you love them, well, they werenât mean to stick around anyways. tell your friends, your family, your lovers that they are what makes life worth living! that they are sunshine personified to your heart and soul!! the real ones will stay, and theyâll tell you the same. too many people donât realize how loved they are. 2025 is the year of telling people you love them. flat out.
Feb 2, 2025
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i grew up saying i love you to my family constantly, we say love you if weâre just walking into another room. i love it because we are always reminding each other how much we truly love each other.
as for friends, i think to myself âwould i be really hurt if i lost them?â and if its a yes
then ill always tell them i love them
Mar 9, 2025
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Iâm not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itâs pretty extreme when people say they âhate kidsâ and I often feel itâs a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids âshould be.â That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itâs fucking hard to be a kid. Youâre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itâs confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyâre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatâs the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025
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Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations.
Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what âmenâ are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at âbeing a man.â In many ways I was! Because I didnât need to bea man. All I needed to be was myself.
Itâs taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I donât. Iâm not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.
Mar 15, 2025