Rec | A FASHION DESIGNER AND ALSO MARRIED??

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Rec'd on 😃 What did your child self think you would be like as an adult?

In elementary school, I wanted to be a fashion designer so so badly. But I never learned to sew. I love designing costumes. I’ve done it for theatre here and there but never really got into it fully. So it’s definitely not going to be my career. But I’m in a position where I can work and make art on the side. So I guess that’s close enough for now. I 100% thought I’d be married by 24 (I’m obviously not even close to being married). I think I thought I’d be super put together by my 20s. I don’t think my younger self was expecting the girl that I am now. But things could definitely be worse. And there is still time for me to become who I thought I’d be!!!

@valoorie

Mar 19, 2025

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@grape

Getting to my 20s and realizing that I still don’t know jack shit about anything was extremely eye opening.

Mar 19, 2025

@valoorie

@GRAPE LITERALLY. I feel like I post all the time about how being in your 20s is so weird and confusing. I was under the impression it was supposed to be cool and awesome but it’s not 😭😭😭

Mar 20, 2025

@greenbean39

I also wanted to be a fashion designer!! I did learn to sew (only because it was part of my fashion class in high school) but I also loved the design portion and struggled with the sewing, specifically patterns. Even if that ship has sailed, I'd definitely recommend learning to sew sometime in the future! It can be fun and useful for sure.

Mar 19, 2025

@valoorie

@GREENBEAN39 I still want to learn so badly!!! Maybe I will! I gotta past my need to be perfect at it immediately 🙃

Mar 20, 2025

@greenbean39

@VALOORIE Totally understand the need to perfect it first try- I would look into classes! That way you can ask questions and figure stuff out in real time, and might even end up doing really well within a day!

Mar 20, 2025

@valoorie

@GREENBEAN39 this is so true, wait you’ve inspired me !!!!!

Mar 20, 2025

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