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By putting hopes + healing into someone else's hands, you also give them all that power over you.
When they stop x, y, z, your maintenance is dropped.
Your wound is never healed without them. (Re: "lost the person who I thought would heal me from all previous wounds.")
Best news is that you haven't lost that person. It's all u bb
A lil self journey to gentle self care could go a long way, with maybe professionals if needed.
Next relationship will be healing bc you'll have all that inner stability.
Hope this helps 🩷🪻🩵
Apr 12, 2025
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This time 4 years ago, I was reeling from the most embarrassingly heinous situationship that’s ever befallen anyone I know (lol this guy is perhaps a story for another time). Now I’m 2 years into living with the love of my life, thinking that I was too broken to ever get close to a human being again
Some of the (many) things that worked for me:
- Taking an extended period away from dating, far longer than I had thought. In a fucked up way, I think Covid saved my life since I functionally had no way to get back out there for 6+ months (I’m not counting those weird FaceTime dates). Even if you think you’re ready, it’s possible you could still benefit from time outside the cesspool just working on yourself and investing in friendships/hobbies/your career/learning new stuff/whatever.
- On a related note, therapy was very needed!
- Start a new, group hobby where you’ll see the same people each week. Not that you’ll forcibly end up dating someone you meet there, but an expanded circle often brings good into your life and it’s exciting to have something new in your life that isn’t tied to success on a dating app.
- Not to be that person since I always hated when people said this to me when I was single, but it always happens when you least expect it. All of the above contributes to a new you who isn’t yearning for it above all else. People are drawn to others who seem to be thriving without them and I promise you you’ll attract much higher quality people when you project this attitude (my own prospects were night and day since I was content in my own life and saw someone as additive not just looking for love/acceptance/contact from whoever could provide it).
Those are the things that came to me initially, but will keep noodling. Rooting for you ❤️
Apr 1, 2024
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There’s no rushing the healing process, but it may be tempting to maintain some kind of relationship because you care about this person. That can be hard and prolong the healing process, but try and move on and focus on what you think you do want 🫡 you got this
Mar 24, 2025
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Work on yourself. Figure out your own likes and dislikes. Date yourself with such vigor, as if you were dating a new lover. That coupled with time passing ought to work wonders.
Mar 15, 2024
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When I feel scared or anxious, wow... Breathing.
Sleeping is a solid second place.
Apr 25, 2025
I've been wanting to do this for yearrrrs. Finally. FINALLYYY.
It doesn't stick to glass, but it does stick to itself.
100% cotton fabric, prewash and dry.
Cut with a shearing scissors to prevent fraying. (Or hem.)
I opted for a 1:1:1 ratio of beeswax, coconut oil, and pine resin. Double boiler to melt.
Apply less and layer the wax as needed.
Mm... Spreading with a spoon did not work as well as a silicone brush.
Iron under parchment paper to spread + seal. (Or bake at 200⁰ F briefly.)
Hottt water + soap for clean up (hands, utensils, etc.)
Cold water to clean the cloths, as needed.
*A steamer can take out any wax mix spills on the floor. (We listen, and we don't judge )
I love it. It made my kitchen smell like pine and propolis.
Apr 26, 2025
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*Native* Seed B*mbs.
The local wildlife will love you for it.
TLDR: Mix native seeds with soil, clay, and water, forming them into balls and then letting them dry.
Long form:
Native wildflower seeds, compost, clay (powder or clay soil), and water.
Mix Ingredients: Combine the clay and compost in a bowl, ensuring a 3:1 ratio of clay to compost.
Gradually add water while mixing, aiming for a dough-like consistency.
Add Seeds: Incorporate the native wildflower seeds into the mixture.
Form Balls: Pinch off small portions of the mixture and roll them into balls, roughly 1-inch in diameter.
Dry and Store: Place the seed balls on a flat surface to dry for 24-48 hours in a cool, shady place. Store the dried balls in a cardboard box until ready to plant.
Distribute: Scatter the seed balls in your desired planting area.
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