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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT and boundaries

Things that come to mind that I’ve tried: Firstly, recognizing that it is anxiety. Helps my brain reframe the experience. I most likely didn’t do anything anyone is going to think twice about in a bad way, but rather my dang anxiety is going haywire again and is distorting things. Loving boundaries with onself. I literally talk to my anxiety like it’s a kid. I give compassion to it, but also draw the boundary that I’m not just going to listen to the same shit over and over if it’s unhelpful. It’s not ignoring, but is is consicously saying NOPE. I’m not doing this to myself! Sometimes, I just need to recognize that yeah that was weird, wtf. But I don’t let myself beat myself up over it. I also have some go to phrases that help me. Firstly, that no one probably cared or noticed the things I did. And secondly, so what if they did? What’s the worst that could happen? They don’t like me? They confront me? I usually come to the conclusion that while some situations would suck, I actually could handle anything. I’m not a bad person. Then I distract myself. I practice mindfulness in the things I’m doing so I stay in the present moment. If my mind starts to go back to that, I see if there’s more I need to feel but usually I’ve dealt with it and just say NOPE! I’m done with that now! I hope this is helpful. Sometimes when extroverting my inner process I’m unsure if it makes sense to anyone but me. But, I’ve been there! I think a lot of people have. And it sucks, but there’s a path forward 🫶

@mossyelfie

Feb 3, 2025

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ADVICE FROM A CHRONICALLY SHY GUY

I’ve been chronically socially anxious for most of my adult life, struggled to really break out of a shell and only had inner confidence amongst people who engaged with me initially. and trust me, the hardest part will always be the first step, because you’re almost programmed to think of those branching paths of “what if this happens?” My main advice is to let those paths exist, but immediately throw them away, even the ones that look positive. because your brain will always take these ideas you come up with in your head and try to twist them, make you poke holes in them until they seem unappealing, or even worse, make them feel like they could end in disaster. the more you dwell on uncertainty, the more you’ll forget why you wanted to do something in the first place. and my other bit of advice is, if you feel it, lock it in. if you want something to happen, say you will do it, and just keep it there. don’t even think about what it could lead to, just say “I want to do x, so I will do x”. from there, nothing can hurt you, you can’t hurt yourself, and even if it goes kaput, you can say “I did x.” finally, maybe a slightly dumber bit of advice, is pick a song to listen to before doing something you would normally back out of, like it’s a hypeman. mine is “champagne coast” by blood orange, mainly because it makes me feel like a Main Character wishing for the best!

@joshuavidual

Apr 27, 2025

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being watchful and taking a step back

I am a very neurotic person living essentially among a daily mist of anxious intellectualizing... Who is currently mildly concussed... Maybe. Thus my most valued personal system is physically or at least psychically affected which is interesting... I was told to "take it easy" and be watchful of signs i should take a step back and stop doing whatever it is that causes, for example, nausea Historically i am always doing a "powering through" and "withstanding" action often to get to the most intense version/end of whatever sensation it is i am feeling at the time, i.e. with substances Hannah from Girls -style, like, putting myself masochistically in the way of things to suffer and then write about it This is good advice for many situations, to not do that and just stop sometimes

@vivian

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