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it's never too late to choose a new path

been having a lot of conversations with friends and family about people feeling stuck - stuck in the first job they got out of undergrad, stuck in an industry they don't care for, stuck in a place they don't feel connected to, stuck with a story they inherited not one they wrote for themselves. our society imposes on us the damaging narrative that we have until age 18 to choose the way in which we will be a productive member of society, and then until age 22 to acquire the skillset to do so, then we must contribute in that way until retirement. finding yourself having followed this path but feeling disconnected to your core values/desires/goals is not uncommon. this was me when i was 23, and to a lesser extent i am finding myself in a similar situation now as a recent 26 year old. you are not alone. here's my advice: find what motivates you, and pursue it with abandon. obviously there are economic realities that make this movment difficult, and this is by design. needing to work for survival keeps us fitting neatly into the roles we've been assigned and makes breaking this mold difficult. this system robs us of our time and energy that we could otherwise apply towards self-actualization. this (combined with the narrative that diverging from a singular career focus will stunt your progress and hinder your sucess) keeps us frozen in a mindset of scarcity and immobility. you have more agency than you realize, though, and your only compass should be that which makes you flourish as an individual. reject consistancy, humans are too complex to be burdened with the obligation to be stagnant. we are told that we have core competencies that make us assets in one specific capacity. this is an economic reality, not a human one. in truth, humans are more capable and dynamic than we know. that which you apply towards one field can just as easily be applied to another, and your "career" can look like making use of your knowledge and skill across many fields and roles and places. don't feel obligated to limit yourself to one narrow path. edify yourself by allowing your compass to guide you along a broad and diverse path. lastly, reject narratives that are not true to your experience. during this period of regaining your agency and taking control of your own direction in life, you will be met with the well-meaning voices of those who have internalized the narratives of our culture, and they will weaponize this against you. they will tell you to fall back in line, to not seek out that which you know to be good for you. do not fall into weariness. you owe it to yourself to find flourishing where you can, and to follow the moving target that will lead you there. what you are doing is brave, and authentic to your true self. answer to no other voice but your own. the corporate climate is so entrenched in the ways of our world and it is starting to reveal itself as a system which does not serve us as individuals. to a certain extent this is out of our control, but in realizing this you can also become more in tune with that which you can control in and of yourself. best of luck friend.

@royallmonarch

Aug 5, 2024

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i'm just a person

How the hell am I supposed to figure out what I want to do with my life for the next 10,15 or even 20 yearssssssssss. I want to do everything, but I can't do that when my ass is broke, so this is a message if yall don't know what career or path you want to take, it's okay cause I don't know as well, and we'll figure it out one day, and if not, that's also okay <3

@callmeshrek

Jul 1, 2024

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i got curious, changed my mindset, and worked hard

To be upfront, there are two things about myself that I love: 1. I'm tenacious AF 2. I am generally a positive person. I can handle almost any situtation, and I've had to learn to actually ask/demand more, so it's not always great. With that being said, I've wanted to die many times. I've experienced a lot of trauma. I have PTSD for years. Things got to a point where I knew if I didn't make really drastic changes I was going to die in some way- I simply could not go on how I was. The only thing that started to change things is when I started to learn more about myself and my reasons for doing things, being with certain people, getting into certain relationships. Part of my whole issue was that I had major trauma from childhood that I was actively avoiding. So many things happen to us as children, big and small, that we don't have the capacticy to deal with at the time. But as adults, we do. I remember the moment where things started shifting for me. It unlocked a hunger in me to dig more and more to why I was the way I was, and why I made the choices I did, in a really deep way. I became more action oriented in facing my shit, healing it, and discovering what I was like without it. It definitely wasn't easy, and it wasn't fun most of the time, but in reality the years I spent doing that are small compared to the life I have ahead of me. I'm a whole new person, but the parts of me that are true are the same. I became a more mature, loving, responsible version of myself. Hating your life is a sign something is not working. If you're unsure what that is, go inward. If you don't know where to start, think about the very next step. That's all you need to do. You're never locked in where you're at now forever. Don't know what you want to do for a career? Switch gears and do a completely different job. There is no timeline. You can literally do whatever you want. When I was doing a lot of the stressful inner work, I worked at animal shelters because I needed something so low stress. And I was mid 20's!!! No career goals in sight!!! Not even anywhere in my brain!!! If you're straight up hating something that is taking up most of your time... just quit it. Life is too short. Success to me is ease and grace. I want a peaceful, joyful life (most of the time). Sometimes to figure out what you need to do, you gotta take a giant step back. Or a step to the left. Or take a big roundabout. Or maybe a quest needs to be taken...

@mossyelfie

Dec 4, 2024

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Nature

Nature is beautiful. I tend to often find myself inside more than outside but when I do go outside I appreciate the beauty of nature and the wildlife and the grass. Life is so beautiful and everything in it.

@evanwillie

Apr 19, 2025

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Growth

You often find growth within yourself when you get a significant other. Instead of putting yourself first always you have someone else to care about other than yourself and with that comes responsibilities that allow you to mature and become a better person. I think meaningful lasting relationships can impact someone’s life more than anything else in this world and a meaningful relationship with someone who you care about more than yourself and anything else is truly the best feeling in the world

@evanwillie

Apr 19, 2025

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Fortnite

I absolutely love Fortnite. I started playing in September of 2017 and fell in love with the game soon after. I remember being in class everyday in 8th grade and the only thing that was on my mind was when will I play fortnite next. It was a crazy level of obsession I had to this silly cartoon game. As time went on I made friends solely just because of Fortnite I remember having like 5 really good online friends just from Fortnite. It was crazy, good times! I’ve taken breaks from Fortnite but always came back to it. There has not been a single month in the past 8 years where I have not at least played one game of Fortnite. I started playing when I was 15 and now i’m 21. Crazy to think about. I graduated middle school, then high school, then went to college, then dropped out, then went to another college, then dropped out of that one, then went to another college all while playing this game. I love Fortnite so much although it’s just a game it means much more to me than that.

@evanwillie

Apr 19, 2025