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went on tinder for a couple of days
and learnt how the dating culture is insane.
like a mating ritual was thrust upon meā
it all felt very weird to me.
firstly, putting yourself out there, like a product with a description
for any consumer to swipe right on,
felt objectifyingāno humanity.
felt used in this capitalist society.
then there was some interaction,
got liked by guys. experienced no attraction.
but matched with only two menā
very uninteresting, both of themā¦
so I crashed out, swiped till no end,
checking, worrying if I got matched.
but I realised this isnāt who I am,
and sat lonely in bed with regret.
just wanted to make some emotional connection,
maybe find someone to spend time with,
only to learn the hard truth:
in todayās society, tinder is no use.
feeling rather silly,
because I used Tinder for a couple of days,
but got violated to my core,
and decided this isnāt what Iām made for.
iād rather meet someone in uni,
or in a bar or a club,
where Iām not a list of hobbies and interests,
where Iām just a person looking for love.
4d ago
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Iāll be candid here. I hate the dating app. I hate myself when I use the dating app. I hate the cutesy little prompts, I hate MARKETING myself. I hate the people on the dating apps, and I hate myself even more for hating these people, because theyāre probably good people just looking for connection just like me. āJust like me.ā How disgusting. Just acknowledging that right there fills me up with this acid reflux bile that I canāt shake. The dating app is inherently antisocial. I donāt care that itās the norm now, that doesnāt magically make it prosocial. You know what else is a norm right now? Mass insemination of cattle via automated semen guns shooting frozen seed into these poor cows that have never seen the light of day, that canāt begin to fathom the complex constructed around shooting frozen seed into their cow uteruses so they can give birth to calves that they will never nurse. Taking those calves & chaining them to the ground from the moment theyāre born so their meat is tender when they are turned into veal.
20 years ago the idea of meeting people on the internet was rightfully scorned as the pursuit of perverts & malcontents. The āmatchā system, trying to offload the pain of rejection to this incredibly diffuse open market where you only get feedback if itās positive. Itās all so cowardly. Christ, theyre selling us an analgesic for our cowardice. And I donāt know, I think if youāre going to pursue someone, really go after them, you have to abandon your pride, your shame, and the things that turn you yellow. Yeah yeah you start talking and dating and then eventually you have to do the actually important and courageous thing and open yourself up to someone else or whatever. Donāt care, the set-up bothers me on a spiritual level.
So anyway, I just got back on the apps this week. I really think itās gonna go down different this time.
Feb 27, 2025
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Iāve been on like 5 bumble dates till now and two of them were the worst experiences ever, the other three were ok.
I feel like there is a pressure on everyone to find someone, this pressure came upon me thanks to my therapistš„°āļøš„°āļøš„°she said to me, you are going to uni and never been in a relationship wtf is wrong with uš„¹ā¤ļøš„¹ā¤ļø
sooo I stumbled upon bumble and other dating apps and my first date was me getting sexually assaulted šššš¤Ŗš¤«šš¬šŗšø
then somehow I continued going on dates with just girls bc fuck men am I right? and they were just basically a waste of time š
now after my fifth and hopefully final date from a dating app, I am officially quitting this. I feel so worthless trying to show myself off by just some lousy pictures and a one liner that says nothing about me.
I just want to live on my own and like someone not by how they want to be seen, but how they actually are
I feel so ashamed of even being on a dating app sometimes, that I get depressed. I get this feeling that I am superficial and just desperate for attention. I need the validation of someone I donāt even know to feel like I am worth something.
Not being loved till now has made me feel like I am worth nothing, that nobody will ever want me or need me. That is why I continue doing this shit and I am stopping TODAY
wish me luckš¬š„°š¬š„ŗš¤Ŗš¬š¬šš„°š¦
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Aug 15, 2024
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Everyone disappoints me in ways unimaginable. Iām honestly aghast and disturbed by the men I have encountered on these godforsaken apps. And the worst part of it all is that now Iām spiraling about the concept of true love, family, and motherhood. What a wonderful way to end my work week.
The moral of the story is listen to what everyone tells you: just stop using the apps. Itās never going to work.
Feb 14, 2025
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Feb 25, 2025
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is indifference the trend now? it seems like the moment someone shows genuine interest in something, theyāre met with the same dismissal as a child asking one too many questionsāI'll explain later. but later never comes
yesterday in literature class, something clicked. I finally grasped the scientific reasoning behind a certain work, and it fueled me, inspired me to discuss interpretations with my peers. but when I spoke up, I was met with silenceāa subtle, unspoken cue to keep my thoughts to myself
in that moment, I felt embarrassed, even stupid, for wanting to dig deeper. but later, I realized they might have just wanted some peace after a long lesson. maybe it wasnāt about me at allā¦
however, this wasnāt an isolated moment. time and time again, when I try to have meaningful conversations about things I truly care about, the response is often the same: why are you even thinking about this? why does it matter?
somehow, not caring has become the golden standard. indifference is effortless, and effort is something to be mocked. itās "cool" to disengage, to float through school without interest, to never give things a second thought. and those who do care? theyāre met with resistance, as if their curiosity itself is an inconvenience
the whole chill guy persona and the propaganda of nonchalance do more harm than we realise. we glorify the effortlessly cool, detached observerāthe person who never tries too hard, never gets too invested, never asks too many questions. passion is seen as cringe, enthusiasm as uncool, and intellectual curiosity as trying too hard. and yet, itās exactly this mindset that holds us back
when we stop seeking, we stop growing. when we refuse to ask questions, we accept what weāre given without ever challenging it. nonchalance might feel safeāit protects us from judgment, from looking foolish, from admitting we careābut it also makes us stagnant. it robs us of the thrill of discovery, the depth of connection, the joy of truly understanding something
so maybe itās time to let go of the chill guy persona and the nonchalant act. itās time to embrace caringādeeply, unapologetically, wholeheartedly. because the world doesnāt move forward on indifference. it moves forward on those who dare to be curious and whimsyā¦
Feb 26, 2025
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live passionately!!!!
use exclamation marks!!!
live a little and feel even more!!!!!
Feb 24, 2025