i find that it's about knowing yourself and who you've always been, then taking that into the world, having new experiences and doing things, and eventually finding little bits of yourself out there in the world. it's easy to forget but hold onto what you love and you'll keep yourself, and if you keep yourself you'll know without question.
this feels like a big answer for this question but it’s true! I feel like I used to feel the most tortured when I thought I had done everything right and according to plan but things didn’t work out the way I thought (still feel tortured by this sometimes tbh).
in a perfect world 1+1=2 but in this universe with nature and people and relationships 1+1 doesn’t have to be 2 and can be something different altogether. realizing that I was doing things hoping for a very specific endpoint and that I was miserable every time the process felt like it had all been for nothing when it yielded a different result was eye opening for me.
these days I try to do feelings checks during the process so even if things don’t go the way I thought and the universe has a different gift for me, I’m at peace and happy I was on the journey anyway even if the end doesn’t look how I envisioned! truly have found more peace by trying to embody the belief that I don’t have any idea how things will go!
(but also getting a gua sha and making a ritual out of moisturizing & doing a lil massage routine every night has helped!)
this is worthy of celebration: the lack of video—autoplay video, noisy inane video, panicky video, algorithmic, dumb video, rabbit hole video, any video—on pi.fyi is a good thing