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Being familiar enough with your inner voice to recognize patterns of speech and at which emotions they arise so you can best manage your reaction. For example, Iāve for whatever reason switched from saying āshut the fuck up cuntlickerā to āfuck you and fuck your momā when I have a thought that makes me feel bad and I know to fogetaboudit. Itās like noting in meditation and Iāve recognized the patterns in my language to know that whenever these phrases cross my mind throughout the day to move on from the thought I was having, to let it lie unstirred, and I can carry on with peace of mind after a minor subconscious interruption. I think the abrasiveness may also really help stop a thought in its tracks.
May 19, 2025
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if youāre person with anxiety like me or a person who experiences misogyny (also me) then chances are you could always get a little meaner when it comes to asking acceptable behaviour of others. looking back on times when, in the moment, i was worried that i was being too harsh by telling people how they can treat me, retrospectively i have almost never ever in my life felt i did the wrong thing. realizing this has made standing up for myself 10x easier every time i find myself needing to. showing others grace is not incompatible with showing up for yourself, in fact, one necessitates the other!
Mar 14, 2024
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i could never understand why i lacked the tools to distance myself from people who hurt me and kept hurting me. iād always go back, iād always āforgive,ā and iād always fawn (try and be better because itās obviously my fault i wasnāt perfect, duh.) .
there has been a recent shift in my life where i will feel physically angry when iām subjected to mistreatment. sometimes iāll put it aside in favor of my fears but sometimes i feel it and let it be.. and when i do, i find i have the power to uphold simple boundaries that protect me from the mistreatment. itās the darndest thing (would you believe it if i said iām black?)
Apr 24, 2024
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This one kind of feels retro. But the only effective thing that worked so far is to replace it with something good.
Apr 13, 2024
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Believing the rest of your life can start today (but not succumbing to the weight of that, which Iāve yet to figure out how to do).
May 13, 2025
I love being a barista because it is so fun to not pay for coffee and taste horrifying extractions and bizarre customer creations (extra sweet caramel single shot breve iced) and take home what we canāt sell to customers. Behold the darkness of week old cold brew concentrate! A true depth of darkness only understood in certain light, black as midnight on a moonless night! Yum yum canāt wait have it with breakfast and feel each blood vessel moving through every artery!
May 26, 2025
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I donāt know if this applies to everyone as we seem to be peak hustle culture to survive the gig economy but I have a lot of free time, so much free time itās overwhelming, that I pander in all sorts of unhelpful ways. Just saw something about someone who makes exquisite jewelry in their free time, it not being their day job, and am having a long hard think about how tired I really am when I claim to be too tired to work on the thing I claim to want to doā¦I also think about kids my age getting married and who may start having kids in the next few years (aside from the ones who already have) and how much of a time drain that is and how some day Iāll probably look back on this point and think I was swimming in time. Would probably help to start on the phone addiction firstā¦Sometimes I think itās possible Iām not as tired as I am, like focusing on how tired I am, trying to measure exactly how heavy my bones feel, only amplifies my tiredness into perceived exhaustion and maybe if I didnāt think about it so much it wouldnāt be as real as I let it, like the cold in winter.
May 27, 2025