maybe theyâre a partner, maybe theyâre a friend, maybe theyâre a family member. regardless of the type of relationship, you know that this person isnât good for you. it doesnât even have to be because theyâre abusive â maybe thereâs just something about this connection that brings you stress. maybe your body is trying to tell you. why does your stomach hurt before and after you see them? you know you need to let this person go, but thereâs a part of you who doesnât want to. youâve gotten used to them being in your life, and you canât imagine a life without them. you want to only remember the good moments. you want to believe that things will be *all good* again. but were they ever *all good*? this person is never going to be the idealized version youâve created in your head. ending the connection will hurt, but youâre already hurting yourself by staying in it.