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getting to know yourself

I think continually asking why you want something can help with this. When you do, you may realize the ”it” you want is rooted in other people: how they’ll perceive you, if you’ll be accepted by them, etc. The older I’ve gotten I’ve been better at untangling some of my desires from the ego and I think it has lead to better self-satisfaction of where I am at and where I am going. it’s also allowed me to ”let go” of some dreams. That’s sounds negative or sad but I don’t mean it so: sometimes you white-knuckle-grip an idea of yourself so hard that it destroys you! I think ”letting go” doesn’t mean things won’t happen, it means they don’t have to and that pressure alleviation can make all the difference. That’s not to say to never let the drive of the ego take over…I’m not sure we would create art/great things without it. I guess what I’m saying is that knowing the root of our desires is a key to balance and self-assuredness.

@gretafetacheese

Feb 18, 2025

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accepting the 80:20 rule

spent the last five or so years in a maze of ennui and self-pity, but i have in the last 18 months slowly been clawing my way towards something resembling the life i want to be living. i can see the end of the tunnel now, but strangely that amplifies my impatience. when things seemed more hopeless it was perversely sort of freeing - i didn’t know where i should be going, so i wasn’t in a rush. now that i have the full map in my hands i have nothing left to do but drive towards the end. that’s exactly what i wanted, in a sense, but now i have the burden of actually executing on the promises i made to myself - turns out that’s harder than making the promises in the first place! who knew

@dotmatrices

Mar 3, 2025

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ENJOY THE PROCESS

this feels like a big answer for this question but it’s true! I feel like I used to feel the most tortured when I thought I had done everything right and according to plan but things didn’t work out the way I thought (still feel tortured by this sometimes tbh). in a perfect world 1+1=2 but in this universe with nature and people and relationships 1+1 doesn’t have to be 2 and can be something different altogether. realizing that I was doing things hoping for a very specific endpoint and that I was miserable every time the process felt like it had all been for nothing when it yielded a different result was eye opening for me. these days I try to do feelings checks during the process so even if things don’t go the way I thought and the universe has a different gift for me, I’m at peace and happy I was on the journey anyway even if the end doesn’t look how I envisioned! truly have found more peace by trying to embody the belief that I don’t have any idea how things will go! (but also getting a gua sha and making a ritual out of moisturizing & doing a lil massage routine every night has helped!)

@minha

Jun 12, 2025

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FINALITY AND UNCERTAINTY

you ever say goodbye 2 someone again and again and never really know if its the last time? yeah mixture of loss, some old some new, and relief need 2 walk this off. lets hope this is 4 the better

@disjenyamembra

Jun 8, 2025

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CONNECTIONS ARE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND POWERFUL THING

moments of shared humanity make me feel so alive. be it going to concerts and moshing or dancing, having a laugh with a friend or seeing and being seen. I value every connection ive got to make, even when things ended poorly. sometimes you go your separate ways and sometimes you reconcile after, but either way you leave changed. a lot of pain can stem from intimacy but i cant help but see my own future as very beautiful and bright

@disjenyamembra

Jun 4, 2025

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NEW MSPAINT ART

self portrait; "Cassandra"

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