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Believing marriage and having children is cool and sexy

I’ve noticed a counter culture movement brewing online where the emphasis seems to be on rejecting neoliberal ideas of individualism and increasingly atomized living as a sort of virtue for the sake of our children who would suffer at the hands of climate catastrophe or just the cold hard reality of consciousnesses. Accounts like @carnivoreaurelius or @saveyoursons offer practical advice about the benefits of high quality red meats, the dangers of seed oils, not sunning your asshole enough and soulless dating apps. They provide some respite from the nauseating reality of the current leftist ideology that’s left a lot of us childless at 30 because of eugenicist level logic like “why would I contribute to our planet’s overpopulation issue?”. Pundits like Jordan Peterson and Candace Owens have built entire careers off this grift of “no nonsense” steps to a better, more righteous life. Don’t get me wrong, are these neoconservative pysops? Sure. But at this point it’s just about choosing which psyop makes life on Earth tolerable for you. I grew up in a culture that shunned the idea of marriage and children altogether because it reminded us of the traumatic lives our female ancestors just had to accept due to their lack of autonomy. Some cope by stating how relieved they are to enjoy their 20s without the responsibility of family and that they have plenty of time not realizing how hard pregnancy is on the body after the age of 32 or how expensive it is to freeze your eggs or adopt. I was repulsed by the idea for most of my life and then it hit me about a year ago…without a solid partner and cute fat babies around, life is kind of a hollow boring nightmare.

@bianca

Dec 6, 2022

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being anti marriage and kids

And telling people about it! I’m spreading my gospel and trying to convert people. I’ve had multiple friends confide in me that they are relieved to hear I don’t plan on ever being married because that takes the pressure off them and we can have each other once our other friends settle down. I don’t like compromising, loud sounds, or sharing and I love independence and alone time so marriage really isn’t for me. Plus I have never experienced romantic attraction but dont tell anyone 🤫 There’s so much pressure to settle down so as not to be left alone especially for women but it doesn’t have to be that way!

@Cloacalkiss

Feb 23, 2025

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A STRANGE BALANCE

A lot of my friends (myself included) got married young; I myself locked down marriage by 22. What I’ve noticed is that when you’re married younger, you don’t get to develop into the generalized stereotypical douche bag archetypes that guys hit in their 20’s — indie sleeze ball, frat bro with allegations, overly into himself athletic dude, guy who is too niche into their hobbies, neighborhood womanizer, etc. This doesn’t mean we’re perfect, just means we missed out on what could be peak horrific boy era that you see from 21-30. What has been weird though is seeing how many guys in that age range now are leaning into the…again STEREOTYPED incel/incel adjacent persona. It’s so strange. I don’t associate myself with many of these guys but I sure do see them (and hear about them) from my friends. Tie that into the stereotype that men shouldn‘t go through therapy (for myself, inherited from a strong immigrant father who has done hard labor since 19) and you’ve got a really messed up bag of guys out there. They either are horrible humans overall, or are just oblivious to what it means to be a normal person, or are in their own headspace and don’t understand why others aren’t thinking like them, or have fallen deep into weird religious and/or political movements that pins them as the victims. In short: no, men are not okay.

@marianoleonczik

May 24, 2025

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Cooking is weirdly liberating

I didn't think I'd enjoy cooking sm and now that I've finally live by myself , learning to cook has been sm fun. I'm so looking forward to being really good at it so I can cook for all my friends 🥰🥰🥰

@gopi

Feb 17, 2025

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BACK IN MY LOVER GIRL ERA

I love love love being in love I'm so glad I have my bf w me. I love him so much it's insane. I just hope to god I'd end up marrying him one day and we can sleep in our cozy little house. I'm so glad I have someone who loves me like how I want him to. He's so kind and nice and I want to give him the world. Some ppl truly are made just for you.

@gopi

Apr 20, 2025

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Got white girl wasted

I love love love getting drunk with friends ( these were my co workers but I would consider them good friends also :P) honestly it's sm fun. This time also felt special coz I called people over for the forst time ever and it felt so so good to host the entire thing. The more I grow up I realise how imp people are to me and how much I love them. I do miss MY people though. I've gone way too long without seeing my bsf.

@gopi

Feb 20, 2025