Rec | ANTI-REC: JUST TEXTING HI

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I beg of you get to the point. texting is not an instant messenger and I have not committed to a conversation / to being on my phone all day. you have no idea how this text finds me.

@Leona

2d ago

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@kaywee

“hi” has to be used tastefully. it cannot be an opening text

1d ago

@Leona

@KAYWEE hi + a relevant meme or picture of the sender and recipient or song they discussed? 😚👌

1d ago

@grape

My mom fucking does this CONSTANTLY!!! AND THEN SHE NEVER HAS A POINT!!!! It’s like stewie griffin nagging Lois over and over again

1d ago

@Leona

@GRAPE ok I’m gonna give a pass to her and Stewie

1d ago

@zara

I wholeheartedly agree

1d ago

@burn

Even full ass thoughts and questions can chill. I get yelled at by family and friends fairly often for not responding right away. But I'm old and even when I was young I get distracted / enthralled with things.

1d ago

@Leona

@BURN no exactly — text has been treated as IM for far too long and it’s bad for us collectively

1d ago

@sluglandia

hahahahah i literally did this to someone yesterday but only cause they left me on delivered and i felt awkward

2d ago

@Leona

@SLUGLANDIA ok this is so funny. hi in this case feels like a statement in and of itself

1d ago

@sloane_shark

changing my framing of text messaging to be more like email than IMing has made it easier to avoid dysfunctional communication like this... respect the other person’s time, don’t expect or depend on immediate responses, that sort of thing

2d ago

@Leona

@SLOANE_SHARK it pretty much is an email with less formality!! I’m still open to pebbles like “this song dude” or a meme, and if I’m available we can chat briefly, but “hi,” feels like an invite to chat all goddamn day and I’m not available for that

2d ago

@inabody

agreed, type up that text like an email and get to the point!!

2d ago

@Leona

@INABODY no fr, what is the reason for your text. nobody needs more screen time

2d ago

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