“We have seen this in personal as well as world affairs – in families, religious groups, nations. Insult leads to insult, incident to incident, war to war. Even if the warring parties are happy to go on with their aggression, innocent people always end up being hurt. In the end, someone will have to help the warring parties heal. Or bury them.”
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Desensitization, conditioning, and teaching denial defense mechanisms are necessary for the soldier who kills the enemy. Who else in society are men desensitized towards the human experience of, conditioned to enact violence upon, and provided with myriad denial and defense mechanisms to escape understanding the harm they inflict?
Jul 13, 2024
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also bonus suggestion; there’s this scene in Workin Moms where one of the mothers Anne who is a therapist, encourages her client to tell her about revenge fantasies regarding an ex.
i think that’s a cool idea if you have a level headed professional who is willing to work through fantasy and how to indulge but exercise restraint
the worst location for a former partner to be is under the skin so I hope this helps or soothes in some way
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I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
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I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025