Rec | RELEASING THE BLAME FOR THINGS THAT WEREN’T YOUR FAULT

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releasing the blame for things that weren’t your fault

when you were 16 you quite literally did not have the physiological capacity to realize that some things weren’t love and that’s okay (can you tell i’m talking to myself here)

@fulfillled

Mar 24, 2024

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Everything Is (Not) My Fault

Every time something happens that's out of my control, I always internalize it and I start sulking, making it seem like I'm somehow at fault for the thing that happened (or didn't happen). Take today, for example. I was supposed to go out with a friend, but she suddenly cancelled without (what felt like) much of a reason. I'm not upset because my friend cancelled our plans, she had every right to, and I won't hold that against her. I think the issue is that I'm upset because my friend cancelled our plans. I had something that I was looking forward to, and now that thing isn't happening anymore. That's the thing that making me upset. And for whatever reason, I'm making it seem like it's my fault that she cancelled, like it's my fault that I'm not going out. Like there was somehow, something that I did, that cause my friend to cancel. The truth is: It's nobody's fault. She had her reason to cancel, and I had no control over that. Sometimes, I find it difficult to accept that this is simply the case for a lot of things that don't go my way. I find it interesting that I can state that this is what happened, but it's like I refuse to believe it. Like I'm lying to myself to try and "justify" what "actually" happened. image via @/hel7l7 on tumblr

@4everinbliss

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Own your MISTAKES

I don’t know why so many people feel the pathological urge to point the blame at literally anyone other than themselves. Admitting fault is a strength, not a weakness. If you tell me you fucked something up I’ll respect you so much more than if you deflect and try to point blame.