Apr 7, 2024
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Jun 8, 2025
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different people have different preferences! so I donāt think there is a recipe out there that I can link you on what to become and how to act in order to attract love in your life
however, if youād like to make changes, I can only advise working on your confidence! there is nothing more attractive than being truthful about yourself and confident in your truth. this also helps open a lot of doors in other areas in your life
still, Iām aware that this is a learned skill based on life experienceā¦ but as someone whoās almost 29 and has various dating dynamics behind her, I wish I had adopted the cheesy ājust be yourself!ā phrase much earlier bc being yourself = less second guessing = less heartache along the way
Apr 10, 2025
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1. just don't accept the invitation. (I used to be a person who flaked almost every time. now I just don't go to things I know I won't enjoy)
2. get your bloodwork done (I put it off, now it bites me in the ass)
3. you don't have to say "sorry" as a sentence opener & you don't have to start your question with "sorry can I ask a question?" just ask. you won't come off as cocky just as confident.
4. buy it if you've been thinking about it for two weeks minimum (even better if it's been month or more)
5. sincerity, vulnerability and curiousity make life interesting. shame, embarassment and awkwardness make life miserable.
6. guilt and pleasure don't go together.
7. nature, man. touch grass, eat fruit.
8. hating someone or something is okay.
9. actually, you're not the person you are at 4 p.m. on a monday. you're the person you are at 3 a.m. on a friday.
10. don't judge. ever. like ever. absolutely never.
May 20, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
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May 28, 2025
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024