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Corniness & Cringe

I'm of the mind that the fear of being corny or cringe will eventually lead to excessive uniformity and a general aversion to risk taking. Like "such and such is so cringe" so it's probably safer to do nothing instead. This is impossible to say without mad clichés and platitudes but let me try to cook for a second. I think that detaching yourself from the thoughts of others is very freeing. None of our decisions are made in a vacuum and we’re all going to be influenced by something, but redirecting your thought process back towards "what do EYE like/enjoy?” and away from "what do other people THINK about the things I like/enjoy?" has become a healthy reset for me. I’ve also been thinking about the amount of art we’ve probably lost out on because someone internalized or felt discouraged by a negative reaction to something that shares a similar vision or concept. I feel that dislike is a guarantee with everything. It’s very easy to do and it’s bonding (I do it all the time) but it also helps me realize that there are always going to be things that someone hates and letting that stop you from doing things that bring you joy, will inevitably kill your spirit. I can’t imagine a world where Viola Davis didn’t cry until she was covered in snot and out of breath, or where Jim Carrey didn’t act with his entire body, or where Madonna never rolled around on stage in a wedding dress. A lot of those choices came from doing what other people at the time wouldn’t do. Behaviors that people believed were worthy of contempt. Thinking about how if Joni Mitchell didn’t write Blue, Fiona might not have written When The Pawn, and SZA might not have written Ctrl, or what would happen if any of them fell into the belief that honesty and vulnerability were cringeworthy acts or something you should run from. People respect a full SEND. If there’s a question of whether or not you should send, choose a full send EVERYTIME. None of these people were praised for their vanity or willingness to be reserved, they were praised for the exact opposite.

@burybusy

Feb 28, 2024

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OVERCOMING SHYNESS

I used to have severe social anxiety to the point where I couldn’t look people in the eye. That was 20 years ago now (god, I’m getting old) and now many people mistake me for an extrovert. What has helped me most is practice. Talk to people, have the awkward moments, and discover you survive! It is vulnerable to open ourselves to others, but it’s also incredibly courageous. It builds your confidence and helps you to silence those anxious inner voices that tell you that every social faux pas is certain death. Here are some lessons that I’ve learned. - Test out your fears. Are they real or are people more generous/supportive than you expect? A lot of times, we’re being hard on ourselves because we’re afraid others will be hard on us. Just as often, people are generous, kind, and understanding. Let them surprise you! - You feel more nervous/awkward than others will experience you. Or maybe they feel the same about themselves! Besides, it’s okay to be nervous. It just means you care and you’re invested in the interaction. - If you feel stuck, ask people questions. Keep a couple of open-ended questions in your back pocket to get people talking. We love talking about ourselves and it opens doors for dialogue and connection. - Slow down and leave space. Don’t feel pressure to fill every pause with a sound. Fill those pauses with your presence. Silence gives you time to think and digest what’s already been said. - Conversation and connection are about discovery. Approach them with curiosity and see what’s possible! This isn’t about knowing your lines like a stage play. It’s improv, baby! Show up and see what unfolds. - Finally, be gentle with yourself. No one is perfect. We all stutter and stumble, say dumb stuff, and even put people off! Keep trying to connect and you will find your people. Good luck and much love to you! 💕

@zenlikeme

Apr 27, 2025

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Ooooh let’s riff

1. always walk there 2. do not wait in line 3. operate in good faith // assume that person doesn’t hate you 4. vegetable or bean in every meal 5. 🧘‍♀️ be chill but also run really aggressively fast after your goals 6. and be yourself!!!!! Duh

@chlonline

May 19, 2024

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not having weekend plans

i’m gonna play spider man 2 until i can’t see anymore

@deluxtoads

Sep 7, 2024

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recs from a lonely birthday girl

hey! I spent numerous of my birthdays alone, so here's what worked for me 1. make a playlist of your favourite songs. literally every song you ever liked from when you were 10 to now. 2. go to your favourite place, but if you don't have one then just go to a park or a museum. I love people watching while listening to music. 3. book a spa day. that one I haven't tried but sounds fun. spa is better in solitude anyway. 4. eat your favourite food. honestly a game changer lol food is the most amazing thing we as species have created. 5. do something you enjoyed as a kid. painting, blowing bubbles, making sand castles. it makes you feel so good, like you're reconnecting with something that's been asleep deep inside you. 6. if you're not scared to talk to strangers then talk with someone you don't know. at a pub or in a line. could be fun. happy early birthday!

@deluxtoads

May 17, 2024

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returning to pi.fyi

missed me yet? i’m back and i love reading these little posts

@deluxtoads

Aug 16, 2024