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i think it’s so easy to get caught in the throws of life that you start to lose yourself a bit. take up new hobbies, listen to the music you used to love, watch some comfort films. do things that remind you of a time when you remembered you. and if those things don’t fit anymore, find someone else. find the things that feel like home
Apr 19, 2024
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if all of the music you listen to reminds you of her try replacing the "you" in the songs with yourself. there's a song that goes "lately I've been missing you" and instead of the "you" being someone else, now it's me and the happiest most true version of myself. i miss that guy and i love that guy and doing this helps to bring him back. this helps to recenter your emotional well-being off of someone else and onto yourself. you've got this ♥️
May 19, 2025
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got this from the book "this is me letting you go" by heidi priebe - which i also very much recommend - but to paraphrase, she says sometimes the biggest things you miss from a relationship are needs that are no longer being met, or ways you showed up/things that were brought out of you with x person that you miss, maybe moreso than the person themselves.
So, if you always went to art shows, finding another friend to connect with over that. Or if you only showed your vulnerable side with that person, redirecting and learning how to meet those needs for vulnerability with others. If you always laughed together, maybe watch a standup special. or if they made you dinner after a long day, order takeout when it gets hard and show up for yourself. etc etc on small and large scales! this is what saved me from the hardest times.
Plus also truly time as has been said. it will ebb and flow and everything is temporary - you will feel light again when the time is right! ❤️🩹
Mar 26, 2025
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— reconnect with an old friend, relative, spent time with your pet. go for a walk even
— listen to the songs you liked when you were younger to remind yourself that you are real and made up of experiences
— stare at yourself in the mirror for an uncomfortable amount of time and ask your reflection how do the things u worry about actually affect you
— stick your hands in the dirt
Feb 25, 2024
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someone on here rec’ed faye and i couldn’t agree more, she just gets it. this is my current favourite song by her
Apr 25, 2024
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chickens, peacocks, ostriches, geese, swans
Apr 23, 2024