i know its mind blowing. but we need to accept the complexities of life. you can not think in a binary yes or no black and white fashion. you will never find perfection, things can be super awesome and also suck a bit. someone can make you insanely happy and also sad. you can hurt someone and they can hurt you too. when you learn to sit in the discomfort of the inbetween you can actually look at the issues that surround you and all their layers and nuances and perhaps.. even begin to work through them. sometimes you're over something yet it stings u every day. many contradictory things can be true at once!!!