ur answer is right in ur description.. ur anxiety is stopping u from enjoying university more.
join those clubs. pull up to a meeting and just simply ask questions. everyone’s also just a human being too. if it’s too late, try again next semester.
Jan 26, 2025
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Other people are looking for new friends too, as most come in with no friends, and I’m sure will be happy to meet you. Just put yourself out there with the knowledge that everyone is in the same situation as you, looking to meet new people. I used to be really introverted before uni but now some people even call me an extrovert. You have so much to gain from societies so go to whatever interests you, to meet new people and participate in new activities, especially at this time of the year when the term is just starting up again! Even the people on society committees may have started out anxious when they first joined.
Only thing is some sports societies might be more competitive and may be teams only, but there should still be plenty that are open to beginners if you’re new to the sport.
Many people seem to only come in for the lectures and leave afterwards. But for those who do get involved in societies, uni goes from just a place for learning to a place of great fun too, which makes you look forward to every day :)
Jan 26, 2025
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I know that it feels like you’re waiting to find your people, and it’s isolating and lonely and I want to affirm that that’s hard— but in the same way that you are waiting, your people are out there waiting to meet you. I understand the difficulties of an anti-social campus, but I encourage you to find clubs, events, and activities that you already enjoy, because whoever you meet there already has something in common with you.
If you have a class with anyone who you think is cool, thinks in a way you admire, or whose writing you like— tell them. There’s nothing more affirming than feeling noticed by a classmate, and I met my closest girlfriends that way.
You could try an intramural sports league, or a climbing gym, or a book club. I promise you’ll find your friends, they’re looking for you too.
Sep 5, 2024
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Absolutely love, I think I've never been shy really but I've shared this feeling you've got of anxiety and fear that my interactions with other people might go so wrong. Used to happen to me because I wasn't sure if I was someone they would like, and my asocial tendencies might get in the way of anyone liking me. Not only that, at some point I convinced myself it wasn't worth trying cause they were probably bad people and would laugh about me. But I'll tell you what, I went to this sort of spiritual retreat with other tenagers at the time, and the woman who was leading it always told us something that seems obvious but that I never really understood until that point, and it was "Opportunities belong to those who take them" if you don't take the opportunity what face do you have to complain?. I ain't lying when I say it changed my life. Because then every time I saw someone I really wished I could talk to I would remind myself that the opportunity was there, beyond the fear and everything, it was there waiting for me. The next thing to learn was to get used to rejection, it sounds awful but the more you hear the word No, the less limiting it is, the less scary. You can't imagine how beautiful it can be for someone else to feel you found them so interesting and worthy of your time even without having met them yet. And finally, start small, give a compliment, set the base for those people you want to meet, let your face be familiar to them, next time you might smile at them, and when it feel comfortable go and say hi, make small talk, tell them what you found nice about them and ask if it would be okay to have their socials, maybe you'll create a bond steady enough to ask for a coffee date or meet up.
wish you the best of lucks XOXO
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