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socializing even when you aren't totally sure you want to
It's one thing to not go to an event you definitely know you won't enjoy, that's respectable. But when you're on the fence and maybe it would be easier to just not go, you should just go. You will be glad you did. This is how we make memories, and stories, and build community. I realized today I haven't hugged anyone in a while but I hugged a coworker after a work hangout, I had been planning to ditch, and I'm feeling very fragile about it now, in a good way.
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@moonbeams
Mar 15, 2025
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@bee1000
I second this! Our brains are terrible at predicting how we will feel during/after things so we have to overrule them sometimes
Mar 16, 2025
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@moonbeams
@BEE1000 as a huge planner/predictor, it took me so long to actually understand that
Mar 16, 2025
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