Eating at a restaurant is a terrible way to meet someone for the first time with the object of romantic involvement. It’s awkward, formal, no matter what there’s going to be weirdness spoken or otherwise about the check, it’s not interactive, your joke reserves dry up, the format requires both parties to learn either too much or too little about a person too quickly. Eating a full restaurant meal loads you up with fatigue and slows your rhythm, gums up your jouissance. Etc.
Better this: assuming you live in a city, meet at a park, walk around, go in stores and galleries intermittently, talk whilst you interact with the world, it’s life affirming, it’s not stupidly pointlessly expensive, and it feels like youre sharing an adventure, it just naturally loosens a person up to be more open, allowing you mutually to get to know each other’s “energy” or whatever much better.
I think I’ve been on exactly one first hang-out first date that happened at a dinner restaurant for dinner — only one that went any further than losing $100 in a night, and it was thanks largely to getting partially sloshed beforehand that I managed it well. Other than that, it’s always been some organic thing that just happened.
Oh also: don’t start the date in an art museum. Are you insane? First hangout ever and you want to go to a place with an atmosphere of stilted reverence where at best you have to whisper banter, and even then you don’t know each other well enough to know how much making fun of things is going to endear or repel, etc. Same with a movie date although if you’ve had any good text or phone interactions, there’s always the old “my leg is on your leg now” gamble. Last and only time I started a first date that way we left as soon as we realized that (1) some Almodovar movies are boring as fuck and this was one of them and (2) we were more interested in touching each other than watching the painfully overwrought characters in the silent venue touch each other on screen.
Picnics are acceptable and encouraged too. Have fun and be safe!