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Eating at a restaurant is a terrible way to meet someone for the first time with the object of romantic involvement. Itās awkward, formal, no matter what thereās going to be weirdness spoken or otherwise about the check, itās not interactive, your joke reserves dry up, the format requires both parties to learn either too much or too little about a person too quickly. Eating a full restaurant meal loads you up with fatigue and slows your rhythm, gums up your jouissance. Etc.
Better this: assuming you live in a city, meet at a park, walk around, go in stores and galleries intermittently, talk whilst you interact with the world, itās life affirming, itās not stupidly pointlessly expensive, and it feels like youre sharing an adventure, it just naturally loosens a person up to be more open, allowing you mutually to get to know each otherās āenergyā or whatever much better.
I think Iāve been on exactly one first hang-out first date that happened at a dinner restaurant for dinner ā only one that went any further than losing $100 in a night, and it was thanks largely to getting partially sloshed beforehand that I managed it well. Other than that, itās always been some organic thing that just happened.
Oh also: donāt start the date in an art museum. Are you insane? First hangout ever and you want to go to a place with an atmosphere of stilted reverence where at best you have to whisper banter, and even then you donāt know each other well enough to know how much making fun of things is going to endear or repel, etc. Same with a movie date although if youāve had any good text or phone interactions, thereās always the old āmy leg is on your leg nowā gamble. Last and only time I started a first date that way we left as soon as we realized that (1) some Almodovar movies are boring as fuck and this was one of them and (2) we were more interested in touching each other than watching the painfully overwrought characters in the silent venue touch each other on screen.
Picnics are acceptable and encouraged too. Have fun and be safe!
4d ago
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i have grown tiresome of restaurant dates with friends. the breeding ground for shallow conversations are high as intimate thoughts are left in a deep drought. cameras are clicked in hope of catching the perfect angle for a meal and a few drinks.
bringing back picnic dates would call for intimate and interactive conversations and moments with friends and family.
Feb 7, 2025
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Grab some friends, hit a restaurant you love on a night they arenāt busy. Slow things down and take your time. Enjoy the conversation, enjoy the moment. Tip well.
Feb 6, 2024
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take yourself out to a nice dinner, get a good cocktail, bring a nice book, and enjoy the vibes - people watch like crazy also
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