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DO NOT DISTURB!

recently turned off (mostly) all immediate lockscreen notifications bc nothing is ever that important. only phone calls, facetimes, libby, and classpass allowed thru. i also like to schedule notification summaries so my phone tells me just once a day what PI.FYI notifications i’ve collected or what the Pattern app predicts heading my way, astrologically speaking. it’s nice and doesn’t hold my attention for long. pros: seeing texts pile up and feeling like most popular girl in the world, no twitchy reaction everytime phone lights up bc now i know its one of four things, incredible renewed ability to FOCUS on reading or drawing or literally anything else, not being pulled into depths of phone as much cons: was trying to sell a chair and accidentally ignored this poor sweet girl for days, even on the nights she was free to pick up chair…like just forgot ab it… thankfully she just showed up and conversed w my roommate like olden times and i was hollered at while watching Love is Blind i’m also switching to greyscale so it makes everything look boring. i need all the help i can get i’ll be so fr this wretched device!!!!

@pratibha

Feb 23, 2024

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My phone

I have a love hate relationship with my phone. I have to have two because work and I hate how much these dumb bricks control my attention and my life. I yearn for the days when humans weren't so easily accessible 24:7 and for a time when getting back to someone in 1-2 weeks was perfectly normal and not considered ghosting or flaky. on the reverse side, instant access to culture, memes, movies, music yada yada but still.

@theeyah

Oct 24, 2024

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Let it die

I like to let my phone die— I often don’t charge it overnight, and try not to plug it in during the day. If you’re able to access work/school through only your laptop, let your phone die, or leave it on the plug in another room. I also delete most apps from my phone for periods of weeks, and minimally use social media— if this works for you, it can feel very liberating, and makes me feel much less constantly accessible (which I think is a good thing). Something that helps me is thinking about the flattening of correspondence; before social media, if you wanted to communicate to a friend, it was one-on-one— you might write a letter, or call, or email, but what you were doing was conversational and relational. When we use social media, we flatten a lot of individual relationships into one relationship between us and our “audience.” Instead of sharing a thought or comment intended for one person, and designed for them to reply and continue the correspondence, we put out press releases on our own lives: “this is what I had for breakfast,” “this is a meme about my mental health,” and we become part of a passive audience in our friend’s lives. We end up feeling like we’ve just seen our friends, because we’re “viewing” their lives, but actually apps leave us feeling very isolated and anti-social. Try deleting your most used social media apps, and also schedule a walk/movie night/coffee with a friend. Outside of radical deletion, pick an audio book to listen to, and pair it with a hands on/tactile activity: you could load the dishwasher, or draw, or try embroidery.

@nadiyaelyse

Jul 29, 2024

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Prince (1979) by Prince

I think about this album all the time and listen to it even more. Let’s start with the album art—fawn-eyed shirtless Prince with a feathered late ’70s blow out? Swoon. Every song on this album is perfect, soulful, electrifying. If “I Wanna Be Your Lover” doesn’t send a tidal shockwave through your bones, you need to find God. He’s purple.

@steff-yotka

May 23, 2025

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Ace of Cups Tarot App

I love Rachel Howe’s tarot deck and handbook and seek her out whenever she’s in New York—which is rare. In the times I can’t find her IRL, I visit a URL version of her deck for a daily pull. A nice way to center yourself each morning. 

@steff-yotka

May 23, 2025

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Two Dresses, Three Shirts

Last time I reco’ed Big Dress Energy—I still stand by this, but have some tweaks. Two Dress, Three Shirt is the ratio I’m following now, layering a slip dress or petticoat dress under a sheer dress for a more undone look, or if I’m wearing a skirt, the top layers go tee, overshirt, jacket. Thinner layers and less poufy—still very magpie, maybe a little more grungy. Lynn Yaeger is the poster child of 2Dress3Shirt. 

@steff-yotka

May 23, 2025