Rec | PROCEED WITH CAUTION

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i feel like there’s such an all or nothing culture around friendship these days — what it really comes down to is: do you feel comfortable continuing to have this person in your life? is it always going to be nagging at the back of your mind that they might not respect u/ur relationship? you don’t have to make a decision right now! but going forward it’s something to keep in mind — if I were you I might not trust this person with vulnerable information, I would be less emotionally invested in them, and I would be extra skeptical of their words/actions. but maybe they’re still fun to hang out with sometimes; I don’t think that’s a crime. although I would def keep them away from boyfriend. does it mean you never have to speak to them again? no — unless you find yourself worrying about it and resenting them! in that case you’re totally justified to move on with your life without them in it. ultimately I think boyfriend should say to (sober) friend hey that was super uncool and don’t do that again. it shouldn’t be your responsibility to deal with this. idk tho that’s just my onion 💯

@crickett

Jun 7, 2025

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@milkbags

thank you for this! i’m not worried so much as i’m trying to figure out if i’m comfortable having them in my life, like you said. i honestly posted in a panic bc i had plans with her toniiight and i was like oh god i need to figure this now 💀 but ur so right i can just think about it

Jun 7, 2025

@crickett

@MILKBAGS oof yeah plans tn is awkward! good luck with however u decide to proceed and im sorry this happened it’s so shitty to be betrayed by a friend :(

Jun 7, 2025

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IN MY OPINION…

i know it was mentioned they were blackout drunk, but to me i feel like if you are subconsciously thinking about that and vocalizing some stuff WHEN YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS TAKEN, somewhere in my gut believes they’re the type to not care about being “the mistress” whatever you may call it. its very disrespectful to me that she said that to your bf especially when you weren’t around. i would obviously consider talking about this with them, but you may take some time to earn trust back. and that may not happen.

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ABSOLUTELY THE FUCK NOT

No way, he’s totally trying to manipulate you emotionally. Unless he was already hanging out with said BFF before you broke up this is a toxic ass sitch and if they’re a real one they’ll hear you and not hang with him. Best case scenario is they hang and you’re REALLY uncomfortable when you talk with them, WORST case scenario I dare not say out loud. Yeah this is not good or reasonable, I’d crash out

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