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Don't protect people from meeting the consequences of their actions. Kids included.
In my experience, the reason why people get away with treating others wrong or don't extract lessons from situations, is that they are not facing any consequences.
If somebody is not respecting the boundaries you transparently set, create consequences for them. If you were not transparent with the boundaries, accept the consequences of people breaking them.
If someone abuses you emotionally, make it freaking public. Doesn't matter if it's a promising young men or a promising young woman. Doesn't matter if somebody asks you not to.
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Years ago, if a friend of mine was experiencing trouble at work or school or with their partner/other friends and asked me for advice or vented, I would very easily default to “quit!” or “drop out“ or “dump their ass you deserve better king/queen/my liege”
And as a result, no one improved, in fact we backslid into becoming reactive or destructive and eventually, bore no patience with one another because there was no good ground to stand on
Life has gotten better since I and others stopped abandoning ship at any sign of discomfort.
Don’t let your friends destroy their lives because you give them a stamp of approval!
Apr 22, 2024
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Feeling wronged by a former lover? Tell them, then just let that shit go.
Friend made a flippant comment that upset you. Just tell them and move on with the friendship instead of letting things build.
Hold people to a higher standard. As long as you’re not hurting anyones feelings.
Mar 13, 2024
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just because you feel sorry for someone does not mean you should endure their negative behaviour!
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