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im getting older and things are happening in my life that have shifted my priorities, and because of that i feel more detached from some of the friends that have been the closest to me for years on end. i dont have a problem with any of them specifically, i think this is just the natural progression of things. i had trouble confronting this at first, but accepting that growth also comes with certain sacrifices or loss is just a part of the process.
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Iāve had sprinkles of acquaintances and light friendships with people over the years that I sometimes feel bad about losing touch with. But sometimes itās nearly impossible to keep in touch with everyone and still have time to care for yourself and your core people. Iāve tried to stop apologizing for that and just try to let people know I appreciate them from afar. I feel like the older I get the more intentional I have to be with my time and the more healthy boundaries I need to keep. It may disappoint some, but true friends get it, and there will always be an ebb and a flow as life changes. I also feel like social media has wired us to be so hyper-connected all the time and itās stressful to live up to the expectation of staying in constant communication with everyone youāve met and liked. Growing up is realizing you can like and enjoy the company of many people and you may not have the time or energy to extend to everyone you want. (And actually itās also okay not to want to!) Not everything and every connection can stay the same and I need to constantly remind myself of that. I deserve to make space and time for myself so I can love my people better.
Mar 4, 2025
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I just don't think all friends are forever. I used to think every friend was worth investing in and fighting for to keep around for as long as possible, but it's becoming clear to me that it isn't always the case. Sometimes life situations change, or personalities change, or even the things you had in common with someone changes, and suddenly it's not the same. And that's okay. Other times it's the realization of self-growth and improvement that shifts you from friendships. I had one friend that I used to love to...well, gossip with. And at some point that desire to gossip dissipated from my life (for obvious reasons) and that friendship didn't seem that attractive anymore since it wasn't what I wanted to do. I remember when we felt the drift happen, it was so awkward for a bit but I genuinely feel like whenever we connected it would just become...toxic. And it wasn't like they made me worse; we both made each other worse. The idea of 'I have to leave them, they are bringing me down' is BS - it's a two way street buddy. They made me want to gossip / I made them want to gossip. You have to own your part in it. IDK! I just think at 30, there are people I though I'd be close to today that I am not close to at all and although I might miss them, I fully understand that I'm better and healthier and more sane because of that distance. IDK. I'm caffeinated rn. And in my feels. And Bon Iver isn't making it better!!!
Sep 25, 2024
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People change people grow apart and thatās ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence itās already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless Iām reminded 25/8 and while Iāve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; itās somehow even harder for me to realize when that itās ok if people are growing apart from me. Itās inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes itās just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and thatās ok.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i āchangeā friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatās besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iāve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youāre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
Mar 13, 2025
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seriously when did everyone get so mean. everywhere i look people are being mean, whether its being racist, homophobic, fatphobic, or catty and snarky. its especially bad on tiktok and instagram like do people not have empathy anymore??
Apr 30, 2025
i, like anyone else now, am incredibly attached to the little computer in my back pocket. however i can feel my mental health decreasing whenever i wake up and instantly go on instagram so iāve begun scrolling on pinterest instead. its still not a great habit but id rather be barraged by cool pictures than the toxins of instagram reels
May 8, 2025
something iāve been able to come to terms with lately is the fact that you really dont need closure. obviously this is more nuanced and dependent on the scenario than i make it sound, but what im talking about specifically is the idea of looking for an answer. like if i got ghosted by someone, i feel like trying to find a reason of why they may have ghosted me takes up more energy then just going āfuck it we ballā and accepting that it was probably never going to work out. sometimes its just not worth it to torment yourself about the past.
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