i know that doesnāt really make sense, so let me explain!
if you love books, find a bookstore, wander around, and donāt be afraid to approach someone firstāchances are the person you approached and yourself already have something in common.
if you want to have a romantic cafe encounter, go to a cafe and just start chatting to strangers! you like the barista? flirt a little and slide your number to him written on a napkin. (always have a pen on youāasking people to put their number in your phone is an awkward exchange. you want the mystery of sliding your number over, then disappearing with a final wink. and donāt wait on someone to text you back, it might not happen so flirt around!!)
you want a partner who might be a bit of an aristocrat? hang out in the places they may congregateāgolf courses, beach clubs, that kind of thingāand doll up. just start chatting! honestly, we live in a world where people donāt approach strangers anymore, so you need to be the change you want to see.
or you even like musicians? go hang out in music lounges!!!
donāt go to places that make you feel very uncomfortable or hold the characteristics of a partner you donāt want. if you hate clubbing, donāt go to a club and hope to find your future partnerābecause that might already be a glimpse into the future of your relationship.
anyways, i hope that makes sense. but honestly, if you feel confident in yourself, it makes approaching strangers so much easier. (who knows, you might even be the one approached.) so serve yourself first. get yourself in a good mental place before getting into the dating scene.
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I was celibi-cied for like 3 years after my situationship became an āomfg-you-are-a-serial-cheater-on-your-girlfriend-of-four-years!ā Hella afraid of love, intimacy and everything.
over the past few months, Iāve been casual dating for no other means than finding out what I like and donāt like. Iāve had good and bad sex, been given flowers on the first date and then ghosted, moved to the UK and had my first proper one night stand (every other one was too drunken to remember lol) and am currently on my first bae-cation with a man I am slowly falling in love with.
I promise you, dating for fun rather than for long-term involvement is so much more enriching than you think. As youāre floating around, you learn to decenter men and tolerate their mansplaining a lot less. You find out that no, you do not want to make a sex tape on the first date, and then youāll slowly trickle in the good stuff. Kind men who just listen to you, and are a little different than the other men youāve seen. Youāll learn to love being treated kindly, and cherish that above all else story-watching-liking-no game bs.
Itās sounds sooo irritating to say shit like phhh donāt look for it, itāll come for you!! But girl as annoying as it isā¦ that is the truth of the matter. I donāt know if this guy is my finish
line, but I did just orgasm like 8 times šš¾ I met on hinge, and lowkey ghosted him intially. give the guy in your dms a chance for real ā¦.
Wishing you and your future lover all the bestā¦.
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Dating apps are the easiest way to meet people nowadays.
I have had some of the worst experiences ever in my life by meeting up with someone on a dating app, but also my current partner and I met on tinder and we have been together for a year and a half now.
What Iāve learned is be completely transparent with your intentions, learn to spot the red flags that someone is lying about their intentions, and be comfortable with something not working out even if there was some chemistry over text.
If you have brought it up with your therapist multiple times, it sounds like you need to just pull the trigger, and figure out definitively if it is for you. You can get 100,000 responses saying āgo for it!ā but only you know what actually works for you.
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People are too afraid to flirt nowadays for fear of "cringe". They jump straight to asking for your social media @ or just ignore your existence and dismiss you as an attractive stranger. I find that the right setting is crucial because (1) it's a self-selection thing. People who want to talk to other people will not choose a club as their first destination for a genuine conversation. (2) dimly-lit settings with music playing lightly in the background is inherently romantic. Good luck out there
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